Weekend Daybook: breaking of bread edition

A curated list of what I've been up to lately: places, people, books, podcasts, music, links & more for your weekend downtime.

 
We cannot love God unless we love each other, and to love we must know each other. We know Him in the breaking of bread, and we know each other in the breaking of bread, and we are not alone anymore. Heaven is a banquet and life is a banquet, too, even with a crust, where there is companionship.
— Dorothy Day
 

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photo from my week

Central Square, NY

Central Square, NY

Man, I love weddings, and we were lucky to be invited to celebrate with this precious couple and their families this weekend. We used to live across the street from each other in the best little town in the Southern Tier of NY.

They were more than our neighbors, but also our friends, class and teammates, students, and first doors to knock on when we needed anything. In those days Brian and I were barely figuring out how to care for our kids, our home, and our jobs. These neighbors welcomed us and made us part of a tight-knit community. We literally walked through floods and fire together.

In all of our moves since 2008 we’ve never had better neighbors. We haven’t seen each other for about a decade but it felt like no time at all.

God bless you, Chelsea and Jeffrey. You’ve got pretty great people surrounding you, and we’re really proud to know you. If you ever need us, we’d be honored to return all the favors your family’s given us all those years ago. ♥️


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posts to praise my old hometown

  1. The Beautiful Bones Of Binghamton via Urban Phoenix

  2. Binghamton: A City of Two Tales via Urban Phoenix


Illustration:   Sarah Lazarovic

Illustration: Sarah Lazarovic


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favorite autumnal movies

  1. Dan in Real Life starring Steve Carell

  2. Hoosiers starring Gene Hackman

  3. When Harry Met Sally starring Meg Ryan & Billy Crystal

  4. Fantastic Mr. Fox directed by Wes Anderson

 

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links to help us celebrate and thank indigenous peoples on October 14

  1. Being Native American in the US via Mark Charles

  2. The head of National Museum of the American Indian on what we should all know via Washington Post

  3. Layli Long Soldier: The Freedom of Real Apologies via OnBeing with Krista Tippett (Don’t miss Layli Long Soldier’s poem excerpts here.)

  4. What reconciliation is and what it is not via Working Effectively With Indigenous Peoples Blog

  5. Buy this book! Unsettling Truths: The Ongoing, Dehumanizing Legacy of the Doctrine of Discovery by Mark Charles & Soong-Chan Rah

    Find Publishers Weekly’s review here.

 

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important words about the justice required for true reconciliation

  1. Let’s not ask Botham Jean’s family to choose forgiveness over justice by Shane Claiborne via RNS

  2. Botham Jean’s Brother’s Offer of Forgiveness Went Viral. His Mother’s Calls for Justice Should Too. by Dorena Williamson via CT

  3. Jemar Tisby On Race and the American Church via Fuller Studio’s Conversing With Mark Labberton (also this episode with John Perkins)

  4. Reparations is a spiritual issue by Nibs Stroupe via The Christian Century

  5. Racial Reconciliation: No Handholding Kumbaya by Rev. Dr. Brian A. Tillman via ReThink Church

  6. What Is the Father’s Heart For Justice? by Jacalyn Barnes, Director of the Repentance Project via Coracle


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8 years ago

During our first autumn in Austin both my daughters chose to homeschool in order to give themselves time to acclimate to our new city. Here Kendra’s reading Shakespeare to Natalie, and my heart kind of explodes whenever I look back on this hard but beautiful season.

You can read more of our adventures here: Homeschool Daybook


May your weekend include some rest and some fun with friends and family. Peace...

p.s. This post may contain affiliate links because I'm trying to be a good steward, and when you buy something through one of these links you don't pay more money, but in some magical twist of capitalism we get a little pocket change. Thanks!

Weekend Daybook: how the light gets in edition

A curated list of what I've been up to lately: places, people, books, podcasts, music, links & more for your weekend downtime.

 
There is a crack in everything.
That’s how the light gets in.
— Leonard Cohen
 

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photo from my week

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We had the privilege of attending the unveiling of a mural painted by a collaborative of Bridgeport students. The Aim Higher Together To End Gun Violence Mural was unveiled during a ceremony in a park behind Bridgeport’s City Hall on Saturday, September 28. The students created the mural in cooperation with several community artists, mentors, sponsors, and partners, including two of our very favorite neighbors and church community friends, Adiel and Amy Dominguez.

Several of the student artists shared their personal motivations for participating in the project. Each of them had experienced the death of a family member or close friend to gun violence in Bridgeport. I loved being able to observe the way the adult community members supported and celebrated the students, and pray the experience will give them a sense of connection as they continue to grow up. Lord, have mercy.


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recent, Biblical reflections on gun reform in the U.S

  1. Ted Cruz takes Alyssa Milano to Bible study — with an NRA edition of the Bible by Shane Claiborne via Religion News Service

  2. Shane Claiborne and Omar Saif Ghobash: Called and Conflicted via OnBeing with Krista Tippett


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links on current events exposing our need for

a better vision of justice & mercy

  1. A Pastoral Response to the Hug Seen Around the World by Rich Villodas via Missio Alliance

  2. The Internet Is Overrun With Images of Child Sexual Abuse. What Went Wrong? by Michael H. Keller and Gabriel J.X. Dance via NYT

  3. World Vision Flips the Script on Child Sponsorship by Jeremy Weber via CT

    In the ministry’s first major innovation in seven decades, the children now do the choosing.


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playlists I made for you to celebrate the many moods of autumn

I consider these personal masterpieces. Listen with pleasure!

  1. Autumn Worship

  2. Folk Autumn

  3. Autumn Instrumental

  4. Loungy Autumn

 
 

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photos from my first walk in the Connecticut woods this fall

This autumn I’ve taken a #100WalksChallenge and within that challenge, an autumn walks challenge. In Connecticut, we’re filthy-rich in scenic walk options. I tend to walk by the sea in summer and winter and in the woods in spring and fall.

Here’s what I posted from my first walk in the woods this past week.

Welcome, Fall!
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I took my first autumn walk in the woods this week, just before all of this blessed rain.
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I’m energized by change but terrible at transition. My body fights transition by acting weary, sniffly, headachy, unfocused, and unsettled. Walking anywhere outdoors helps ground me in seasons of transition, and autumn is the best of the best times to walk in the woods. It’s also my third annual season to thank God for this place we live so abundant and diverse in walking landscapes.
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I’m looking ahead to a continued and renewed sense of grounding in our city, home, and church community. I’m looking forward to celebrating a new worship space for Church of the Apostles here in Bridgeport. I’m looking forward to making wedding plans with @kenjedelm . I’m looking forward to celebrating our 29th wedding anniversary just before Thanksgiving. I’m looking forward to weekly #workstories2019 guest posts on the blog, various speaking engagements, and writing projects. I’m savoring each conversation with God and those who invite me into their lives as a Spiritual Director. And, yes, I’m looking forward to the pumpkins, cider, doughnuts, and homemade apple crisp.
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Welcome, Fall! I’m excited to get to know you better over many walks in the woods.


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lovely links on the pleasure of reading with children

  1. On my all-time favorite YA book (which I re-read every summer) A Ring of Endless Love: Family in Madeleine L'Engle's Young-adult Fiction via Forma

  2. Evergreen Classic Reviews of Beloved Children's Books: EUDORA WELTY ON CHARLOTTE'S WEB, DOROTHY PARKER ON WINNIE THE POOH, AND MORE

  3. Children Need Stories That Tell the Truth About Life and Death By Rebecca Bratten Weiss via Image Journal’s “Good Letters” blog

  4. Five Children’s Books That Honor the Body of Christ by Aarik Danielson via Think Christian

  5. Tomie dePaola’s books help us find the sacred in stories of service and stillness via America Magazine

  6. Our Favorite October Picture Books via Read-Aloud Revival


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8 years ago

Autumn in Austin brought major bouts of homesickness. In my first fall away from NY, I slipped home for apple-picking and pie-baking with my sisters.(October 2011)


May your weekend include some rest and some fun with friends and family. Peace...

Weekend Daybook: the Engagement edition

A week of collecting what I've been up to lately: places, people, books, podcasts, music, links & more for your weekend downtime.

(1) photo from this week

Our daughter Kendra got engaged! We’re so happy for her and her fiance, Jordan, and we loved celebrating with them this past week!  Many more photos and exclamation marks to come!

Our daughter Kendra got engaged! We’re so happy for her and her fiance, Jordan, and we loved celebrating with them this past week!

Many more photos and exclamation marks to come!


(2)-part article published for The Telos Collective

We live in a culture of workism where people both define themselves by their work and struggle to find its meaning and purpose. In this two-part series, I explored a missional approach to the areas of identity and vocation.

  1. In Part 1, she shares how listening to the 9-to-5 stories of her community has opened a path for blessing and connection: Why Am I Here?”: A Missional Approach to Identity and Vocation

  2. In Part 2 of her blog series on vocation and mission, Tamara Hill Murphy of Church of the Apostles shares firsthand experience that offices can double as confessionals and work-related prayers as benedictions: The Workplace: America’s New Church?


(3) sweet videos about fathers and sons

  1. Can’t get enough of this adorable father-son conversation.

  2. This son reminds his dad and the rest of us what matters most!

  3. Negative Space is an Oscar-nominated short film animation that depicts a father-and-son relationship through the art of packing a suitcase.


(4) rubrics for a Christian political imagination

  1. The Grey Area is Holy Ground by Marilyn McEntyre via Comment Magazine | "The bottom line for great compromisers: "It's not that simple."

  2. The Christian Mandate to Subvert Tribalism by Judy Wu Dominick via CT | From 2017 and more important to read than ever: "Our call to pursue nuance, a love-infused, subversive force."

  3. Against Nationalism: A Reading List for Christians via Englewood Review of Books | “How do we balance our biblical call to love, care for, and seek the welfare of our neighbors with our identity as followers of Jesus, whose reign was not of this world?”

  4. The Economics of Love by Peter Mommsen via Plough | Beyond Capitalism – and Socialism


(5) books I’m reading right now

  1. One Blood:Parting Words to the Church on Race and Love by John Perkins - Hearts & Minds Bookstore | IndieBound | | Amazon

  2. A Place in Time: Twenty Stories of the Port William Membership by Wendell Berry - Hearts & Minds Bookstore | IndieBound | | Amazon

  3. The Heart’s Necessities: Life in Poetry by Jane Tyson Clement with Becca Stevens - Plough | Hearts & Minds Bookstore | Amazon

  4. The Lowland by Jhumpa Lahiri - Hearts & Minds Bookstore | IndieBound | | Amazon

  5. Call the Midwife: Shadows of the Workhouse by Jennifer Worth - Hearts & Minds Bookstore | IndieBound | | Amazon


(6) posts from the archives

  1. 2017 - All Who Enter Here [writing at Art House America] (This is an essay I keep writing and re-writing, and it feels meaningful again this year as my Grandfather’s health steadily declines. “Year by year, we formed a kind of family liturgy, a joyful way of being together that transcended the reality of the modest little cabin and weedy pond. The liturgy expanded to jubilation… underneath Grandpa’s homemade picnic pavilion, eating Grandma’s macaroni and potato salads.”)

  2. 2014 - Orange (August is a good time for paying attention to the daily things, don't you think? Sometimes these prompts feel a little self-indulgent for me, but I think it’s a really good time to participate with #AugustBreak2019 again!)

  3. 2012 - My life as a rabbit (“People called me, emailed me and sought me out after church to share great part-time job ideas: personally assist a speaker and life trainer, copywriter for a sales company, provide childcare. All I wanted to do was to get paid for reading books all day.”)

  4. 2011 - Saying good-bye hurts like hell OR How My Husband's Personal Trainer Taught Me About Love (“When talking with people about this fact, my husband has taken to quoting a well-loved line from Christmas Vacation, " If I woke up tomorrow with my head sewn to the carpet, I wouldn't be more surprised than I am now.")

  5. 2011 - Farewell Gifts (“We're still licking our wounds a bit, I'll admit. Still in mourning over lost dreams. Still shaking our heads at the lunacy of leaving behind these once-in-a-lifetime kind of friendships.”)

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4 years ago

2015 - Natalie the fire-keeper. This will always be one of my favorites!


(7+) photos from our little celebration for Kendra & Jordan’s engagement!


May your weekend include some rest and some fun with friends and family. Peace...

p.s. This post may contain affiliate links because I'm trying to be a good steward, and when you buy something through one of these links you don't pay more money, but in some magical twist of capitalism we get a little pocket change. Thanks!

Weekend Daybook: July edition

A month of collecting what I've been up to lately: places, people, books, podcasts, music, links & more for your weekend downtime.

(1) photo from this month

I love this photo my sister took during our annual Hill Family Vacation at LeTourneau Camp on Canandaigua Lake in NY. Sweet moments.

I love this photo my sister took during our annual Hill Family Vacation at LeTourneau Camp on Canandaigua Lake in NY. Sweet moments.


(2) things I published this month

  1. What I Read January - June, part 1 [from the book pile 2019] (Life’s been a bit upside down lately, and I’m especially grateful for the companionship of good books. Hope you enjoy the micro reviews + publisher blurbs!)

  2. Why Am I Here?”: A Missional Approach to Identity and Vocation (I’m grateful to contribute to the excellent conversation at The Telos Collective and was pleasantly surprised to see it published this week. We live in a culture of workism where people both define themselves by their work and struggle to find its meaning and purpose.)


(3) summer-related blessings and encouragements

  1. Summer Benediction by Malcolm Guite via The Cultivating Project (Short, but oh so sweet.)

  2. Summer Stress and Summer Rest: A Spiritual Director’s Thoughts on Holidays via Kutsu Companions (In a season of intense caregiving, Brian and I are trying to best discern what it means to rest. Anyone else in the same boat?)

  3. Seminary Grads: God’s Name for You Matters More Than Your Masters by W. David O. Taylor via CT , excerpted from Master of God, Beloved of God: My Commencement Speech at Fuller Theological Seminary via Diary of An Arts Pastor (A good word for all of us from our beloved friend, David. “And so, beloved, remember your true name and, as you exercise your Jedi powers of naming the world faithfully and responsibly, carefully and graciously, remind the people of God of their true name, too: the beloved.”)


(4) links about the person I’d vote for if I had to vote today

  1. Mark Charles for President 2020: “Building a nation where ‘We the People’ truly means: All the People” (You can see his campaign announcement here.)

  2. An Independent, Native voice: Mark Charles launches 2020 presidential campaign by Dario Thundercloud via Last Real Indians

  3. Navajo man wants the nation to hear its official apology via CNN

  4. Mark Charles on Reconciliation, Lament, and a Campaign for All the People via Pantsuit Politics


(5) podcast episodes I’ve enjoyed this month

  1. Touching Eternity: A Conversation with Scott Cairns and Malcolm Guite on The Image Podcast (A bit literary geeky, but cozy as a cup of tea.)

  2. Tony Hale on the Creative Life and Process on Fuller Studio's Conversing with Mark Labberton (Is it possible to be a fan of an actor without actually being a fan of any of his shows? That’s me + Tony Hale.)

  3. Episode 32 - The (Beautiful) Reality of Befriending Someone with Down Syndrome on The Lucky Few (A good word for all of us, and especially for families.)

  4. #18 Hell and Heaven on Ask NT Wright Anything (I’m really enjoying the format of this podcast!)

  5. Season 2 | Episode 1: Raising Peacemakers on Preemptive Love’s Love Anyway (A new way to think about what it means to care about our children’s safety.)


(6) posts from the archives

  1. 2017 - In past years, July seems to have been a fruitful writing month for me, at least at Think Christian. These are 3 of my favorite articles I ever wrote for them. Catastrophe’s Refreshingly Ancient Take on Marriage  , Lindy West, Barbara Brown Taylor, and Embracing Our God-Given Bodies , and in July 2015, Instead of Facebook, a book of Faces

  2. 2015 - Monday morning thoughts: dancing bear act, crash helmets and a Doxology (A, hopefully undramatized, stream of conscious meditation about Sunday worship which I try often to recall.)

  3. 2014 - The 14th Annual Epic Family Tradition (It’s 2019 and we’re still managing to keep it going!)

  4. 2012 - Dying the Many Little Deaths of Ordinary Service (Still accurate: “I am a weakling when it comes to everyday service. There's a whole set of psychological reasons -- some rather legitimate -- I could give as rationale. At the end of the day, though, I don't like to do mundane, grubby work. Plain and simple. The purpose for this disclaimer is to say I've only just begun to learn what I'm about to share here, four practices of everyday service.”)

  5. 2010 - "Sometimes we have to change jobs in order to maintain our vocation." -- Eugene Peterson (That year Brian had to lay himself off, and we’ve never been the same since.)

  6. 2009 - Meditation [disciplines of the inner life] (Another epiphany I still find relatable: “God wants to form a Grand Canyon in me and all I want to be is a rain gutter.”)

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13 years ago

Hill Family Vacation 2006, Bethany Beach, DE

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this year

Hill Family Vacation 2019, Canandaigua Lake, NY


(a bunch of) photos from this year’s Hill Family Vacation

Natalie and my niece Karis spent hours making this video highlight reel of our 19th annual family vacation. It’s kind of epic. (Avenger Endgame fans keep your ears open for the credit score.)


May your weekend include some rest and some fun with friends and family. Peace...

p.s. This post may contain affiliate links because I'm trying to be a good steward, and when you buy something through one of these links you don't pay more money, but in some magical twist of capitalism we get a little pocket change. Thanks!

Weekend Daybook: some heartwarming things

Seven days of collecting what I've been up to lately: places, people, books, podcasts, music, links & more for your weekend downtime.

(1) photo from this week

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On February 13, we attended the Exhibit Opening for our friend Adiel Dominguez. His first show and it was impressive! You can see (and purchase) his work here.


(2) projects I’ve been up to

  1. Ash Wednesday is March 6, and that means It’s time to talk about Lent! (That might not feel exciting, necessarily, but it still warrants a couple !!) I put together a substantial post about why and how we practice Lent: Lent begins in 2 weeks! [Lent Daybook explained] I’m working on a follow-up post of recommended resources for Lent, but don’t get too hung up on needing the right things. Lent is mostly about the Church’s heart toward God and God’s heart toward us.

  2. I added another segment to a series of Spiritual practice stories on Instagram: Becoming Secure in the Father’s Love. I fully intended to write a blog series during Epiphany on spiritual practices that have been life-giving for me. It didn’t happen on the blog for a variety of time-related reasons, but I’ve been grateful for the IG platform to share what I’m learning and to hear back from you. Even if you don’t have an Instagram account, I believe you can also view what I’ve shared about the practice of silence and noticing without judgement.

Click on the photo to see my 15-minute talk on Becoming Secure in the Father’s Love.

Click on the photo to see my 15-minute talk on Becoming Secure in the Father’s Love.


(3) reminders that God loves us even when it’s the end of February in the Northeast

  1. These stunning photographs of frozen trees in snow.

  2. If this doesn’t warm your heart, you might be dead.

  3. If beautiful photos and heartwarming stories aren’t doing the trick, here’s some science to help you get through the rest of winter.


(4) reasons to be encouraged about being a person who goes to church

  1. My friend Amy (who also happens to be the Children’s Ministry Director at our church) wrote a note about how much she’s been enjoying teaching our 4th-6th graders even though it’s been a reminder that “What every teen knows, however, is that the church is not cool. The good news is that the church does not have to be cool to be relevant. What the church has is Jesus, and he is enough.” See the rest of her note here. And take heart!

  2. On the subject of children, here are three simple but profound ways to help your kids soak in the Scripture. via The Homely Hours

  3. Be glad that this exists, and receive their wisdom. via Anglican Multi-Ethnic Network (AMEN)

  4. These weeks of Epiphany are all about the world-shaking truths Jesus spoke in what we call the Beatitudes. Would that world leaders read and follow what this Vietnamese church leader’s written: The 8 Beatitudes of the Politician . H/T: Global Christian Worship


(5) meaningful, thoughtful, nuanced pieces on current events

  1. What Local Government Should Do in the Wake of Amazon’s HQ2 via StrongTowns

  2. A Spot of Good News in the Ebola Crisis: Vaccine Supplies Are Expected to Last via Stat News (This IS good news! Here’s something I wrote for Think Christian in 2014 when the news about the Ebola crisis was much bleaker: Balancing Vigilance and Providence in the Face of Ebola ),

  3. In Black History Month and every month, there are so many stories to celebrate. Here’s a small, but profound moment: Marian Anderson’s ‘defiant performance’ at the Lincoln Memorial. via The Kid Should See This

  4. I no longer refer to myself as [*merely] Pro-Life , but Consistent Life. It’s pieces like this that help me think through biases and double standards of both political platforms: The Price of Violence: When Dehumanizing the Vulnerable Hurts One’s Own Causes by Julia Smucker via Consistent Life Blog (Here’s a related piece I wrote for TC in 2017: Making Space for Pro-Life Feminists.)

    *UPDATE: The author of this piece, Julia Smucker, reached out on my FB page to graciously share some insight on the matter of terms:

    “We're a pretty diverse mix of people at Consistent Life, coming to it from different places, but I think I can safely speak for all of us in saying that we view the term as an extension of the term pro-life rather than a replacement of it. Personally, before I knew the term consistent life, I would sometimes say I was "pro-life across the board" - for all human beings, across all the life-or-death issues. That still holds true. And knowing the unfortunate political baggage that terms like "pro-life" sometimes get saddled with, I still am often quick to underscore the breadth of what I mean by it: "I'm pro *everyone's* life," and such like.”

    Thank you, Julia!

  5. Let’s remember Venezuela.


That’s all I’ve got for today. I’m off to Boston today for a meeting with my Spiritual Direction supervisor. May you enjoy some good company and conversation this weekend, friends.

I’ll leave with you this painting of a moose doing yoga.

Peace,

Tamara